Observation without judgment, change as mere opportunity, and nothing being fixed

Frederic asks for the Wonders' own perspective on stress.

For him personally, they say, the greatest measure is to move further toward observation without judgment, which he is already doing well although a good deal of judgment remains.

The one thing that does stress him is change; if he realizes that change is neither good nor bad but simply an opportunity to move, his stress becomes less and, with everything else sorted, almost non-existent.

Change is a constant - the universe is constantly moving and shifting, even the air he breathes changes moment by moment - so there is no reason to fear or judge it; he need only realize his sufficiency and be able to say he can move in any direction, and go where the movement takes him.

Frederic adds that he can change his choice moment by moment, but still needs practice: he must choose a new car, is no longer interested in cars, and feels stuck with whatever he picks for the 36 months of the lease.

The Wonders challenge whether he is really stuck - he could sell the lease, and if a lease can be sold it can also be bought from someone else.

Frederic recognizes this as a lingering psychology applying to most things.

They tell him nothing is fixed or immovable; everything is fluid, and seeing it that way is liberating.

If he does not want a 36-month lease he can look for a shorter one and negotiate, since there are always negotiations and, in the current economy, opportunities.

They add a further consideration: if the universe keeps making the thing unavailable in the form he wants, that is its way of suggesting he wait.

Frederic relates this to a house he and his family have been looking for that has not turned up, and the Wonders tell him not to be stuck on it having to be in a particular place, type, location, style or colour - take the mind's judgments out of the equation and anything becomes possible.