Session 36 — December 2017

Frederic asks whether there is a spiritual aspect to his worsening eyesight.

The Wonders say that in the past he refused to see things from a spiritual perspective, which affected his sight, and that as he opens to the interconnection of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual his eyesight will begin to improve.

The core issue is his mind's habit of thinking in absolutes: once sight is lost, or one ages, or a limb is lost, the mind declares nothing can be reversed, so he ends up living a life of absolutes.

They note he has loosened his grip on absolutes over the last two to four years and that the attachment to "it can't" is a mind game; the real question is not what can be done but what he chooses.

When he objects that his eyesight worsened during the period he was being less controlling, they answer that being less controlling in one area does not change the mind's psychology about his eyes.

They recommend the Bates method; when he replies that he already uses physical eye exercises that he knows work, they point out that this response is itself the absolute they are describing, and say the exercises will work better the more relaxed, less stressed and more in command he is, but will not truly improve things while he holds on to absolutes.

Frederic asks what an earlier session meant when it said he could earn much more money doing something he was not then doing.

The Wonders reply that he has effectively achieved that outcome already without making the move: he is his own master in his work environment, deciding his hours, his way of working, and even his pay, while keeping the security and benefits of employment.

The original suggestion had been to become a real consultant travelling to do the work he does now, which would earn more money and is worth doing if he needs more, but since he is so good at extracting more money from his employers they suggest he continue as he is, keeping up the work, attitude and perspective and looking for more.

Frederic mentions considering becoming a teacher.

The Wonders answer flatly not to teach: he would get so tired of people that he would tell them off.

When he clarifies that he means creating recorded IT courses to put on the internet, they endorse that, distinguishing it from teaching since learners use it at their own discretion, and encourage it as passive income.

Recalling that Rene once suggested he might do spiritual teaching in front of people, they say that is not in the cards for him now because he has a lot of judgment and no patience, though it may be possible in future.

They note he has patience with his daughter and great patience with his wife, but none for the ordinary masses of humanity, who are the ones needing help, so a good video teaching tool is the better route.

Asked whether he also lacks patience with himself, they point to the many years he has judged his own success or failure rate in what he is learning, and define patience as allowance: choosing everything one can while accepting that one arrives when one arrives, rather than insisting on arriving by a set time.

Frederic says one of his psychologies is that he cannot teach while still learning, since what he would teach would not be absolute or complete.

The Wonders ask whether he could not simply teach the steps he has taken and let others move on from there, since he is responsible only for imparting knowledge, not for others' success or failure.

When he says he does not see the value in incomplete knowledge, they tell him he sounds like his father: the idea that knowledge must be complete is a psychology and belief structure absorbed from his environment, specifically from his father, not something genetic.

They tell him not to sell himself short, that he has real insights into himself, his relationships with everything around him and the universe, leading to interesting questions and greater insights, but never to what he considers complete knowledge, because complete knowledge can never truly be gained.

His difficulty is expecting that A plus B equals C and that this is the end, rather than seeing that C leads to D, D to E and so on.

They affirm he has changed substantially, smoothed his rough edges, and become more willing to enjoy who he is and allow himself not to be perfect, and urge him to ask the questions he does not want to ask, going into the areas of himself that are uncomfortable or uncertain, even without knowing where they lead.