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Personal growth

Choice, empowerment, letting go, and meeting the self. 114 indexed topics across 55 sessions.

'Doing nothing', living from the subconscious mind, and the inner child who resists being told what to do

Frederic asks how the earlier observation that he likes doing nothing relates to the idea of living from the subconscious mind. The Wonders say the tw…

1 segment1 session · 2020

A book written for a future self

Frederic asks whether he ever wrote a book in a past life intended for a future self. After clarifying the question, the Wonders answer that no book w…

1 segment1 session · 2018

A message for the forum: a year of celebration

Noting little activity on the forum, Frederic offers to post a message from the Wonders about what is to come. They give one: this year is a year of c…

1 segment1 session · 2014

A paralyzed mind and the invitation to meet oneself

The Wonders turn the questioning to Frederic, asking whether he is enjoying life or struggling with techniques to achieve what he thinks he should. He…

1 segment1 session · 2011

Abundance already in hand, and a message for the forum

Asked what would be of greatest benefit now, the Wonders ask whether Frederick sees himself as wealthy and abundant, then tell him to go deeper and re…

1 segment1 session · 2009

Advice for Frederic: dreaming a life without fear, aging, and being different from others

Applying the same question to Frederic, the Wonders note he admires the unicorn in his daughter and the determination and drive in his wife, but judge…

1 segment1 session · 2025

Are humans adults or children? The mature versus the merely logical mind

Frederic asks whether humans overall can be considered adults or still children. The Wonders answer children: most human minds, whether in adults or c…

1 segment1 session · 2020

Arrogance about intelligence and contempt for the human race

Frederic asks whether, if all the races of the universe were ranked from most stupid to most intelligent, humanity would sit near the bottom. The Wond…

1 segment1 session · 2020

Asimaya: what it does and why a technique was given at all

Frederick asks what the Wonders observe in his use of Asimaya, partly because he has promised to write a testimonial and finds it hard to testify abou…

1 segment1 session · 2009

Assessment of Frederic's personal growth over ten years

Frederic notes they have spoken for about ten years and asks for their perspective on his movement, since the progress does not seem like much to him.…

1 segment1 session · 2016

Assignment to contemplate 'spirit being' and the discontent behind losing interest in work

Frederic says he has not explored much since the last session because he was on holiday. The Wonders press him on what he did differently for himself …

1 segment1 session · 2017

Being paid for advice nobody follows, and abundance without effort

Frederic remarks that although he tells people at work what to do, they do not listen - and he no longer cares. The Wonders point out that they still …

1 segment1 session · 2023

Between assignments: quiet time, and what to look for in the next work

Frederic says that since being pushed out of his previous mission he feels it is time for a change but does not care yet what it will be and is not ev…

1 segment1 session · 2024

Changing beliefs as a series of choices and actions

Frederick asks whether changing a belief really is just a matter of choice and worries that his choices are mostly ego-based. The Wonders say many are…

1 segment1 session · 2008

Changing core issues by peeling away layers of judgment

Frederic revisits earlier guidance about changing the core issues of who we are, asking whether one goes deeper and broader and stops just before ther…

1 segment1 session · 2019

Choosing more brings more choices and a faster pace

Resuming after the interruption, Frederic notes that he used to have far more time for relaxation and that although he enjoys choosing more flexibly, …

1 segment1 session · 2018

Closing guidance: the best question to ask, and observing without judgment

With time running short Frederick asks what the best question he could ask right now would be. The Wonders answer that it is 'What can you give me of …

1 segment1 session · 2007

Closing scenario of working as a home-based consultant

After the session René recounts what he watched: Frederic telling his employers he will hire himself out as a consultant, and when they object that th…

1 segment1 session · 2021

Comfort versus awareness, and participating in the movement rather than only observing

Frederic says he is happier than he used to be but still likes comfort very much, and sometimes enjoys what he is experiencing so much that he does no…

1 segment1 session · 2022

Continuing the exploration through imagination

Frederic acknowledges a tendency to stay put once he is comfortable and says his main focus is to continue exploring. The Wonders say what he has achi…

1 segment1 session · 2019

Contraction into the physical and the habit of 'I can't'

The Wonders ask what Frederic would choose if he could choose absolutely anything without fear, judgment or guilt. He answers that his desires are cur…

1 segment1 session · 2019

Contribution through posing questions and making statements without attachment to the result

Frederic objects that if everyone votes from a consciousness of fear and judgment, the outcome will reflect only that, and mentions having jokingly fa…

1 segment1 session · 2020

Creating a context for choice through a playful story

Frederick observes that giving someone Asimaya creates a context in which they can choose, and asks whether a book could create that same context with…

1 segment1 session · 2009

Difficulty with groups and permission to express emotion

Frederic connects this to his trouble with groups, recalling workshop titles about group consciousness he was once given, and observing that most peop…

1 segment1 session · 2020

Dislike of habits and the drive toward flexibility

Against heavy background construction noise, Frederic asks whether his dislike of habits is behind the many varied events and situations he has been g…

1 segment1 session · 2018

Dissatisfaction with work, consulting paid on results, and teaching the attitude

Frederic admits he is still not satisfied with his so-called job. The Wonders call it a frustration and observe that he does enjoy work, but only when…

1 segment1 session · 2021

Eating well while travelling

Frederick explains that frequent travel and hotel stays make his organic diet difficult and wonders whether the long-term answer is to avoid such situ…

1 segment1 session · 2007

Emotional connection, sufficiency, and knowing versus thinking

Asked whether acne has an emotional component, the Wonders say it varies by individual; in his case the mental and emotional components are so minimal…

1 segment1 session · 2008

Expanding consciousness through a supportive environment

Asked generally how he can expand his consciousness, the Wonders use the image of a seed: planted in fertile ground it becomes a beautiful flower, thr…

1 segment1 session · 2005

Exploding light bulbs as denied emotional energy, and the choice to express all of oneself

Frederic mentions a recurring pattern of light bulbs exploding and electrical appliances failing around him and asks what it is about. The Wonders say…

1 segment1 session · 2025

Fear of leaving his 'sandbox' and rebalancing the mental with the emotional

Frederic asks whether this connects to an earlier session about being afraid to go beyond his current sandbox, or to see himself differently, because …

1 segment1 session · 2020

Fear-based questions versus questions of exploration

Frederick says he does not think he has ever asked a question that was not fear-based and wonders what a non-fear question would look like. The Wonder…

1 segment1 session · 2007

Feedback on his books and writing style

Frederic asks for a comment or blurb for his book One Suit for the Soul. The Wonders suggest Rene would be the better source but offer: "It is a good …

1 segment1 session · 2012

Feelings versus emotions: love and sorrow beneath the mind's labels

Frederic asks whether there is a difference between a feeling and an emotion. The Wonders say his mind is usually what defines the feeling, while unde…

1 segment1 session · 2018

Frederic's nomadic nature and whether to move country

Frederic revisits the earlier description of himself as nomadic, which he does not recognize. The Wonders explain that although he does not move physi…

1 segment1 session · 2024

Frederic's writing: the editor's feedback and writing for oneself

Frederic says he sought feedback on his writing because his audience is tiny - two books over ten years with about one buyer, one subscriber, one read…

1 segment1 session · 2023

Full consciousness in the conscious mind, meditation, and physical life as a playground

Frederic asks whether a 'fully conscious human' refers to the conscious mind. The Wonders confirm it does: the conscious mind has moved with the subco…

1 segment1 session · 2022

Giving the mind a new puzzle: doing nothing

Frederic says he is learning to distinguish himself from his mind, and asks what puzzle he could give his puzzle-loving mind beyond what it has alread…

1 segment1 session · 2016

Group consciousness, the self as energy, and exploring beyond the mind

Frederic raises a dream mentioned at an earlier workshop about seeing how far a group could go, and admits people and personalities have become boring…

1 segment1 session · 2010

Having no questions: pragmatic reality versus spiritual exploration

Frederic says he could not come up with questions for the session. The Wonders explain this is because he is now focused entirely on his practical, pr…

1 segment1 session · 2017

House hunting: waiting for the feeling versus settling out of fear

Frederick describes having instantly known his current home was the one, and now, after viewing many houses, never getting that feeling; he wonders wh…

1 segment1 session · 2008

How behavior change reaches the cells, and how long the process takes

Frederic asks how one changes behavior so that the cells produce more energy. The Wonders answer that it is not the cell's behavior but the behavior o…

1 segment1 session · 2020

Imagination, reality and illusion

Frederick says he has trouble distinguishing imagination from reality and asks whether reality exists at all if everyone has a perspective. The Wonder…

1 segment1 session · 2009

Indifference toward the world

Frederic says one of his frequent feelings is indifference to most of the world, and that he has felt fine with it and done nothing about it. The Wond…

1 segment1 session · 2018

Inner child work and the essence of John Bradshaw's approach

Frederic reports he has begun the inner child work, finding Bradshaw's method complicated with what feels like ten thousand steps, but coming down to …

1 segment1 session · 2018

Interconnection as a starting point and the dissatisfaction of the pragmatic approach

The Wonders describe interconnection as a beginning that gives the mind a reality it can grasp - being connected to Rene, Maggie, and others - then as…

1 segment1 session · 2017

Is his personal change only superficial? The sandbox of the mind's reality

Frederic reviews the changes he has made over recent years and says they feel interesting but still superficial, and asks whether that perception is c…

1 segment1 session · 2019

Letting new ideas come, imagining beyond current forms, and the ego of technology billionaires

Frederic describes what he has been playing with: rather than visualization, which he finds boring because it involves forcing and obligation, he lets…

1 segment1 session · 2022

Luck versus choice, seeking more creative people, and starting a consulting practice

Frederic says there are emotions around the idea of sufficiency: he has always managed to do what he wanted at work, but each time he wants to change …

1 segment1 session · 2020

Marketing, self-promotion and expressing one's truth

Frederic observes a reluctance in the New Age movement to promote or market oneself, while pushing people to buy is a push energy usually based on fea…

1 segment1 session · 2009

Mental and emotional health protocol: commanding the mind and reclaiming emotions

Frederick asks why his protocol covers only the physical. The Wonders explain that they give physical, mental, emotional and spiritual protocols to th…

1 segment1 session · 2007

Moving from rigidity to fluidity rather than swapping perspectives

Noting Frederic's silence as he considers new perspectives, the Wonders tell him not to be afraid of the new, and clarify the point: he is not looking…

1 segment1 session · 2022

Nighttime processing and commanding the mind

Frederic reports a sense that a great deal of processing has been going on for the past couple of months, particularly at night and at a subconscious …

1 segment1 session · 2010

Nine months of quiet, and everything arriving at once

Frederic notes that he did what he wanted for nine months and quieted his mind, and that now everything seems to be happening at the same time. The Wo…

1 segment1 session · 2025

Not caring about things any more, boredom as judgment, and observing the stress it creates

Frederic describes now often drawing a blank on subjects and asks whether this is resistance from the mind or simply no longer being concerned with th…

1 segment1 session · 2022

Not feeling stressed about the wider situation, and no longer anticipating

Frederic says that looking at the current environment, where several difficult years seem likely, he feels he is supposed to be stressed but is not, a…

1 segment1 session · 2022

Observation without judgment, change as mere opportunity, and nothing being fixed

Frederic asks for the Wonders' own perspective on stress. For him personally, they say, the greatest measure is to move further toward observation wit…

1 segment1 session · 2022

Observing psychologies through life rather than mentally, being paid to do nothing, and the house search

Frederic raises the psychologies one can observe, and the Wonders repeat their invitation to followers to come back with their awareness so it can be …

1 segment1 session · 2022

Originality, and not judging other people as boring

Frederic says he likes original ideas but has trouble finding them since everything seems to have been said. The Wonders agree that from one perspecti…

1 segment1 session · 2025

Participation in the forum

Frederic asks what would be beneficial to post on the forum. The Wonders say the forum is doing reasonably well but that only a core group invests its…

1 segment1 session · 2009

Past lives as a writer, lifetimes in Japan, and incarnations beyond Earth

Frederick asks when he was a writer. The Wonders name the year 1139 after the birth of the Nazarene, when he was transcribing the Bible, plus other li…

1 segment1 session · 2007

Pattern of leaving jobs, rebellion against society and judging 'fools'

Frederic describes a repeating pattern: he tolerates a work environment for a while, then can no longer stand it and leaves, and he wonders whether re…

1 segment1 session · 2018

Playing with energy, stubborn inner parts, and colds as distraction

Frederic asks whether he is still playing with energy in his seemingly random interactions with computers. The Wonders confirm it, saying he perceives…

1 segment1 session · 2020

Professional direction and becoming a writer

Frederic says he is confused about what to do professionally and asks which areas, talents or skills he should explore. The Wonders ask what he would …

1 segment1 session · 2005

Raising energy levels

Frederic asks how to raise his energy levels. The Wonders say he will be most energized by doing what the self wants to do, while his mind gets excite…

1 segment1 session · 2012

Rene's post-session reflection on giving up before change

After waking, Rene reflects on people who come to the Wonders excited and enthusiastic, then become anxious and afraid once real change within themsel…

1 segment1 session · 2018

Renée's own experience of attracting crowds

After the session Renée recounts that the first channeler he ever met, Michael Blake Reed, was told by his source that Renée had a gift of attracting …

1 segment1 session · 2019

Resentment and judgment of humanity as self-judgment

Frederic asks whether the resentment toward humanity mentioned previously is specific to this lifetime; the Wonders say not necessarily, it can be gle…

1 segment1 session · 2017

Resistance, pride in being a 'record holder', and energy

Frederick mentions having been told years ago that his mental resistance overloads his nervous system to a degree that made him a kind of record holde…

1 segment1 session · 2007

Review of Frederic's growth and personality shift

Opening with the question the Wonders asked him to bring, Frederic requests a perspective on his growth. They say he has substantially shifted his per…

1 segment1 session · 2016

Self versus ego in the venture, and the drive toward simplicity

Frederic notes that building companies is fun from the ego's perspective and asks what fun would mean for the self. The Wonders answer that for the se…

1 segment1 session · 2012

Simpler and direct as the direction, with no further step beyond it

Frederic asks what the next step is beyond 'simpler'. The Wonders first correct the phrasing: not merely simpler, but simpler and direct - direct mean…

1 segment1 session · 2021

Simplicity of existence versus the mind's need to control and solve

Frederic observes that when judgment is removed everything becomes very simple. The Wonders confirm that the simplicity of existence is that it is, an…

1 segment1 session · 2023

Society's pessimism and the changing psychology of longevity

Frederic asks whether perceptions of the world will change, noting the current mood feels like a winter season with little optimism, and whether socie…

1 segment1 session · 2016

Spirit guides, manifestation and not limiting what the universe brings

Asked about guides in other dimensions, the Wonders say one can choose that, and some connect to deceased relatives, but usually guides are a filter t…

1 segment1 session · 2007

Stress, the fear at its root, and choosing to love what one is

Frederic returns to the recurring topic of stress, noting that techniques exist but are context-specific and only sometimes work, and asks for a deepe…

1 segment1 session · 2025

Suggestion that Frederic become a public speaker

Asked what other knowledge they have for him, the Wonders ask how he would enjoy becoming a speaker to the world. Frederic doubts he has anything inte…

1 segment1 session · 2015

Target audience and the choice of a discouraging editor

Frederic notes that from the exercise it appeared his likely readers would be aged 65 and over, so the work is not for children. The Wonders reply it …

1 segment1 session · 2023

Teaching, online courses, and the lack of patience

Frederic mentions considering becoming a teacher. The Wonders answer flatly not to teach: he would get so tired of people that he would tell them off.…

1 segment1 session · 2017

The 'great joy' that is coming and living as a natural example

Frederic asks whether the great joy mentioned last session was specific. The Wonders say it is not a car, a job or children, but a joy of life so comp…

1 segment1 session · 2016

The 'spirit being' exploration and what it means in this situation

Frederic reports on the previous session's assignment, saying that over recent weeks he feels as if he is living in a different world, though it is ha…

1 segment1 session · 2017

The Abundance Retreat, and 'Who am I?'

The Wonders suggest Frederick avail himself of the series from the Abundance Retreat, which he already owns, saying it will affect even the idea of bi…

1 segment1 session · 2008

The economy of his country and the opportunities coming toward him

Frederic recalls being told in an early session to expect inflation rather than deflation and asks about the economic outlook where he lives. The Wond…

1 segment1 session · 2009

The five-year journey and the desire to contribute to humanity

Frederic recalls a 2017 retreat where it was said that participants would go on a five-year journey and would love some parts and hate some parts, and…

1 segment1 session · 2019

The gift for words and electronic publishing

The Wonders tell Frederic he has a truly amazing gift for words. He replies that repeated rejection makes that hard to believe; they answer that he wa…

1 segment1 session · 2012

The image of the twelve trains and the fear of missing opportunities

Frederic asks about a previously given image of twelve trains coming toward him, which he had understood as opportunities. The Wonders confirm they we…

1 segment1 session · 2010

The inherited belief that knowledge must be complete

Frederic says one of his psychologies is that he cannot teach while still learning, since what he would teach would not be absolute or complete. The W…

1 segment1 session · 2017

The mind's fear of ceasing to exist, and the child-parent-grandparent analogy

Frederic says he needs to keep questioning. The Wonders affirm his curiosity but repeat that his mind is afraid of letting go of control because it fe…

1 segment1 session · 2020

The mind's fear, its sufficiency, and its relationship with choice

Frederic senses that stepping outside the maze will bring fears. The Wonders explain that as he explores this way the mind realizes its ability to con…

1 segment1 session · 2019

The mind's habitual rigidity, resting and illogical dreams

Frederic returns to the earlier point that the mind is a completely flexible tool that people do not see or use that way, suggesting the mind goes to …

1 segment1 session · 2019

The most interesting and most puzzling questions Frederick has asked

Frederick asks which of the questions he has asked across all their conversations was the most interesting; the Wonders reply it was 'How can I choose…

1 segment1 session · 2007

The never-ending circle of ego and mind issues

Frederic observes that he could examine issues of ego and personality forever without ever getting out. The Wonders agree that this is a never-ending …

1 segment1 session · 2019

The probability of regrowing enamel, and fun in the waiting versus fun in the using

Asked how the probability of regrowing his enamel stands now, the Wonders say it has improved by about 3%. They tell him he is still only toying with …

1 segment1 session · 2008

The subconscious mind as a tool and as a source of sabotage

Frederic recalls earlier guidance about living more from the subconscious so that the Self expresses itself through the subconscious mind, and asks ab…

1 segment1 session · 2018

The vision of worldwide retreat centers

Frederic recalls earlier talk of a vision for worldwide retreat centers and asks about it. The Wonders reply that he should not wait for Renée, Maggie…

1 segment1 session · 2018

The Wonders' direction for the coming years: self-definition, self-actualization and experience over talk

Frederic asks what the Wonders are working on with humanity now. They say that in recent years they explored spirituality and moved people to incorpor…

1 segment1 session · 2022

Unexplored inner territory and the mind as a tool for observing without judgment

Frederic notes that humans explore outward into places never visited and asks whether there are similarly unexplored parts on the inside. The Wonders …

1 segment1 session · 2020

Waiting to be happy: the meaning of the 'if' and the bomb

Frederic returns to the February session, where he said he would be happy if his life kept getting easier, was asked why he said 'if', and where Renée…

1 segment1 session · 2019

What am I really interested in: the unimportance of physical identity and exploring subconscious talents

Frederic says he has been asking himself what he is really interested in and does not yet know the answer. After a joke about nose picking, the Wonder…

1 segment1 session · 2025

What being in the 'top 30%' means, and not being alone

Having re-listened to the previous session, Frederic asks what it meant that he ranks in the top 30% of humanity. The Wonders explain it means he has …

1 segment1 session · 2025

What it means to have a strong mind and why Frederic was given one

Frederic asks whether everyone has a strong mind, since the Wonders have often said he does. They say not really, and describe variations: some minds …

1 segment1 session · 2017

What spirituality means in practice

Frederic says that since spirituality has been the running topic he feels he should work in that direction, and finds himself with questions he arroga…

1 segment1 session · 2020

Where Frederic's questions come from

Frederic asks whether his questions are only puzzles generated by his mind or come from something deeper. The Wonders answer that he has a deeper desi…

1 segment1 session · 2019

Where to go next: exploration, control, and the fear of harm

Frederic asks where he goes from here on a non-practical level. The Wonders ask what he enjoys about exploring and get him to agree that he enjoys dis…

1 segment1 session · 2018

Whether he wants to work, arrogance and doubt, and acknowledging others

Frederic keeps sitting with the question of whether he really wants to work, concluding he does not. The Wonders point out that in the past he has pre…

1 segment1 session · 2020

Whether more or fewer people are listening

Frederic asks whether the Wonders' audience is growing or shrinking, noting fewer people on the forum. They answer that it is neither more nor less bu…

1 segment1 session · 2013

Whether past lives are worth exploring

Frederic considers exploring past lives but first asks whether it is more than curiosity and mind candy. The Wonders confirm it is of no real conseque…

1 segment1 session · 2009

Whether the sabotage ever ends, and the negativity of the mind

Frederic asks whether this sabotaging ever stops or is simply how the mind is designed. The Wonders state that the mind is a constant negative and tha…

1 segment1 session · 2018

Whether to buy a house: nesting versus freedom to move

The wife asks whether it is a good idea to buy a house in the region where they live. The Wonders ask what each of them actually wants, observing that…

1 segment1 session · 2018

Why exploration proceeds in steps, limitlessness, and changing behavior first

Frederic observes that spirituality is about everything, yet it is learned by focusing on one aspect at a time, and wonders whether it would be more u…

1 segment1 session · 2020

Why identity matters: the mind's first judgment, separation, and relating to others

Frederic says the common theme behind his questions is limitations, and that his attachment to limitation seems linked to a need for identity, that is…

1 segment1 session · 2020

Why people take the easy way, and the primacy of choice

Asked what the most valuable question he could ask would be, Frederic asks why we always tend to follow the easy way. The Wonders answer bluntly: beca…

1 segment1 session · 2009

Why the Wonders do not play on fear, and seekers versus entertainment

Frederick asks how someone without fear can reach people who live in fear, and whether that is why relatively few listen. The Wonders say they do not …

1 segment1 session · 2009

Writing a book: the need for recognition and writing for oneself

Frederick asks what advice they would give if he wanted to write the most inspiring book ever. Their answer is 'choose' — they refuse to supply the su…

1 segment1 session · 2009
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